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FOUR PERSONALITY TEMPERAMENTS
By Tim Marks
As we each build our leadership communities, one thing that quickly becomes obvious is that people are unique! Everyone has their own history, their own list of accomplishments, their own family situation, their favorite sport, favorite food, and their own personality style. Despite all of the differences, when you start spending a lot of time with a lot of people over the years, you start to see some patterns in behavior emerge. For example, you see that certain people are shy, and certain people are really confident. Some people really love details and tasks, and some people just love to be around friends. With practice, you can start to recognize the general patterns in people’s personalities, it can help you understand them a little better and relate to them more successfully.
Recognizing the different personality styles is nothing new. People have been studying other people for as long as people have been around! For example, a very famous Greek Philosopher named Hippocrates (after whom the Hippocratic Oath for medical practitioners is named) believed that in order to be healthy, your body needed equal amounts of four specific liquids. He called these liquids “humors” and they listed them as black bile, yellow bile, phlegm (“flem”), and blood. If you got sick, Hippocrates and his students thought it was because you had too much of one of these humors. So, they tried to cure you by removing some of those fluids! (Not always successfully, mind you, and not a very wise decision to begin with. Just imagine the conversation! “Hey Pythagoras, you still sick? Well, let’s drain off a few quarts of that yucky blood stuff you’ve got inside and see if that doesn’t put some spring in yer step!”)
Fast forward a few thousand years and we humans are still trying to figure out ourselves and the people around us! Luckily, some very smart people have done a lot of the heavy lifting for us. A wonderful author, Florence Littauer, has
Hungry, Honeable, & Honorable
By Orrin Woodward
In our Wall Street Journal #1 best selling book Launching a Leadership Revolution, Chris Brady and I talk about the 3H principles of every leader. Hungry, Honeable, and Honorable each plays a part in the developing leader. If you desire to lead in your home, community, workplace, church or club, these 3 characteristics are essential for your success. Anyone can improve their leadership by studying these attributes and applying them to their leadership journey. Each of these is explained in full in our book, but let’s elaborate a little on them here.
There is no leadership without a hungry person mentally willing to learn and grow. Without hunger, a person is satisfied with the status quo. Since every major achievement happens when a goal is set, satisfied people will not get uncomfortable enough to change. The old saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher appears,” explains this well. What do you yearn for in your life? What existing situation that you are dealing with must change? These are the seeds of discontent that lead to hunger and eventually leadership if directed properly. I believe it is easier to teach a hungry person the skills for leadership than it is to teach a skilled person how to be hungry.
If a person is willing to work, that is a good start, but real change occurs only with examination. Socrates said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” Are you examining your results and honing them for improvement? Failing is not fatal and is a great way to learn. If you run from your failure or blame someone else, you steal from yourself a learning experience. Failure is a given in life, but learning is optional. A honeable student is willing to take counsel, confront reality and change where needed. Too many would-be leaders will not accept any counsel and thus are frozen...
It's How You Think That Counts
By Chris Brady
People will often say that they are in search of an opportunity, assuming that they have the correct thinking to carry an opportunity through to success. What is most surprising, however, is that the challenge is usually just the opposite.
I know in my own case, I was convinced I knew how to think systematically. I was confident I could perform. I thought I had a good attitude. I had a great formal education, and it seemed all I needed was an opportunity.
Reality, however, was just the opposite. I didn't so much need an opportunity as I did correct thinking. As it turns out, I had a lot to learn (and still do). I needed to develop emotional maturity, long term vision, attitude control, proper perspective, perseverance, and a long list of other things with which I wasn't equipped. I was correct in my confidence that I could succeed, but not without a lot of personal change.
People who are unwilling to confront this brutal reality are the ones that go from "opportunity to opportunity" and never quite seem to make it. They are always on the brink of something big, but just never seem to get there. The reason is that they take the root of their problem with them into each new endeavor. That root, of course, is themselves! Without learning the thinking that leads to success, by studying the great achievers, finding a mentor, and making learning and personal change a constant in their life, they basically just experience the same failure over and over. Such a person that claims ten years experience actually just has the same experience over and over again for ten years because they haven't grown personally.
If you are reading this article, however, I think it very unlikely that you are in this category of people. You, instead, are reading and seeking information to help you develop your own thinking. If you place yourself on a program of personal growth, learning hungrily everything you
By Terri Brady
“The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them.” – Mark Twain
I took three of my kids to the dentist this week- the normal every 6 months habit. We walked into the waiting room, books in hand. (Aside: I really believe if I bring my book, my wait is less. If I forget my book, the wait is longer. It is like a Murphy’s Law for me!) The television had been playing to an empty room, and was set to a morning talk show. A commercial came on with a famous female commentator asking a woman, “Did you kiss her? Did you like it?” I had no idea what was coming, but I quickly jumped up to turn off the television. When I spun to look at my kids, they were all three looking down at their books. Phew! One more day without that media educating my children’s morals… I think. The silence was refreshing, when an employee sprang into the room, remote in hand. “Oh sorry! Here, let me put it on a kids’ channel.” And with all good intentions, she made the noise begin again, this time with cartoons flying.
From the waiting room, we went to the dentist chairs, where we each had our own personal TV. Mine was set on one of those “insider” shows that tells all of the gossip about famous people. I quietly prayed for my children’s ears…and for the actor about whom they were talking on my TV – who was in trouble for protecting his own children from his paparazzi.
After my appointment, I went to the waiting room, where my children were. Their books were open, while the television continued in the background. The receptionist asked, “How do you get them to do that?” as if it were taught as a dog-trick, like playing dead.
HOW DO YOU GET KIDS TO READ?
You Have the Power to Hurt or Heal with Your Words
By Dan Hawkins
Do you use your words for good or evil? Do you even realize you have that power? One of the key principles we teach on the LIFE Leadership materials and LIFE training system is the power of your words to uplift those around you. We can choose to lift up or tear down people we interact with, but we must consciously choose daily.
It saddens me to even write this article, but anyone who becomes aware of this problem can begin to help solve it. We have all been in a situation where words were used like a sword in battle, cutting someone to the bone and causing a great deal of pain. Why does it seem that when we find ourselves in a verbal conflict, we so often reach for the weapon of harsh words that hurt instead of grabbing uplifting words that heal?
We all suffer from the same human affliction, the tendency toward sin. It seems we tend to judge others by their actions, but only judge ourselves by our intentions. It amazes me to see the amount of gossip and slander taking place online today. People seem to think it is their “duty” to share their perspective on a topic; however, words that are filled with gossip and slander are less about truth and more about revenge or blame!
I recently grabbed a book off of my shelf that I decided to re-read because of the impact it had on me. The Weight of Your Words by Joseph M. Stowell is a powerful book to help us understand our tendencies toward using hurtful words and why others choose this destructive path. Once your thoughts become words that you express e