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Do You Need to Toughen Up?
By Claude Hamilton
Think about the toughest person you know. What makes them tough? Are they physically strong? Are they able to deal with a lot of stress without showing emotion? Or do they know how to get what they want, no matter what the odds?
When I was in the military, we thought of “toughness” as a purely physical characteristic—how well we could handle physical demands and keep going, despite the challenges. But as I’ve moved through the various phases of my life—as a cadet, a diver, a husband, a father, and a business owner—I’ve redefined the word. I’ve watched those around me build businesses and families, and I’ve noticed that the difference between success and failure seems to come down to one, simple skill: the ability to take punishment and keep your original intentions. That’s how I define “toughness.”
If you’re a parent, think about your goals. Likely, you want to raise a healthy, happy child, guiding them with as much love, patience, and compassion as you can. But what about those long nights of teething and ear infections? The days when you can hardly keep your eyes open? Do you still manage to crawl out of bed when you’re needed and spend the night cradling and soothing your child?
Maybe you’re a business owner. If you are, you probably have a mission statement and a long-term vision for your company. But every business has its own challenges. Whether you’re experiencing an unexpected financial issue, a supply shortage, or a customer service complaint, how you handle it is often the factor that determines the outcome. Do you stay true to your mission statement? Do you continue working toward that ultimate vision?
True “toughness” is shown by the parent who makes it through stomach bugs and teething and still provides all the love and comfort their child needs, night after night. It’s demonstrated by the business owner who, in the face of a customer complaint, keeps their overall goal in mind a
DO THIS! – Important Tools for Your Success Journey
By Tim Marks
Through mentoring with my good friend, Orrin Woodward, I’ve learned to define and believe in my dreams, get rid of negative expectations and negative beliefs, pursue character and get out of my comfort zone. Of course, those aren’t the only keys to navigating the journey of success, so here are a few more tools for the road.
Get Rid of a Wrong View of Success
What good is trying to move on along the road to success if you don’t even know what success really is? Most people assume success can be measured by something you accomplish or own, but they would be wrong. Success, real success, doesn’t come from the outside, it comes from the inside.
This is where it’s important to apply the Define, Learn, Do principle. That starts with thinking about what you truly want when it comes to success, and asking yourself what it will give you that you wouldn’t otherwise have. Keep asking that question so you can keep finding answers that move you along the road.
The truth of the matter is that we all ultimately want to feel good about ourselves, and we don’t have to get stuff or accomplish things to do so. True success always comes from the inside.
Don’t settle for Mediocrity
If real success comes...
Leaders Produce Long-Term Results
By Orrin Woodward
I just read a snippet online that I believe is from a Peter Schiff’s book called CrashProof written in 2006. It was a parable describing why consumerism and debt are bad habits to develop for individuals, companies, and nations. America became a great nation by its disciplined people who saved, produced, and then enjoyed the fruits of their labors. Today, many are taught the alleged joys of debt, consumerism, and the right to live off our American birthrights. The reason I am so passionate about leadership is because it is so lacking in our culture today. Leaders get results, not just talk, not just pose, not just run to government to protect them! Leaders get results through serving their customers.
Do you want to help restore the American Dream? Then start dreaming, learning, leading, and producing results. When you lose ask yourself this question. Do you hate losing bad enough to change or do you hate changing bad enough to lose? Everyone hates losing, but most are adept at sidestepping the responsibility for the loss and thus never change. Don’t pass the buck, don’t blame your parentage, your environment, your spouse etc. Accept responsibility for losing, learn to really absorb the loss and hate it enough to change. Those who are willing to change ultimately win and those who are willing to blame perpetually lose. Here is the snippet, are you one of the producers or one of the writers of IOU’s. America cannot stand government IOU’s and needs leaders to lead a revival of true production.
A Tale of Two Farmers
Farmer Chang grows only oranges. Farmer Jones grows only apples. Each grows only the fruit he produces most efficiently, trading his surplus for the fruit grown by the other. Both farmers benefit from comparative advantage and free trade. The sole reason
A Walk on the Wild Side
By Chris Brady
I would like to quote today from author Dan Allender in Leading with a Limp:
"God does call every one of us to lead. Again, a leader is anyone who is moved to influence others to engage a problem or an opportunity for good."
And perhaps my favorite quote from Allender:
"Leadership is a walk on the wild side . . . moving toward a goal while confronting significant obstacles with limited resources in the midst of uncertainly and with people who may or may not come through in a pinch. Leadership is about whether we will grow in maturity in the extremity of crisis."
I especially like the last part of that last line: "grow in maturity in the extremity of crisis." Leadership is really a strange art. Whereas most people in the midst of crisis shrink from it, complain about it, or wish it away, leaders use it to come alive. Conflict, crisis, confusion and uncertainly bring a leader to life. Challenge presents an opportunity for change, not pain. That is why so many of history's best known stories of leadership come from times of grave crisis. Difficult times reveal people for who they really are. When others cower, leaders stand tall. When others shrink, leaders rise to the challenge.
Undertand: the world is full of fakers and posers. Anyone can beat their chest and say tough words. But watch who performs when the guns start firing and the ammunition is real, and you'll have your leader.
Use the crises in your life as agents for change and growth, and pray that God will strengthen you to utilize your gifts mightily. One of life's biggest regrets is to look back over it and wish it would have counted for something. Don't let that happen. Take a walk on the wild side! Lead! Right where you are with what you've got!
Coyotes and Jesus
By Terri Brady
Years ago, at the soccer field with my older boys, I heard this exchange between my daughter, then 4, and another parent on the sidelines:
Parent: ”What’s your name, little girl?”
Daughter: “Christine, after Jesus and Daddy”
Parent: “Oh! Well what’s your daddy’s name?”
Once when my children were young, I took them up onto the back deck after sunset, so we could behold the amazing sky of stars God had displayed that night. As the breeze swept across the surrounding woods, the leaves sang and animals scurried. In the distance, an ominous howling reminded us of the nocturnal hunts occurring, while we simply enjoyed a peaceful moment as a family.
“I’m sccccccared,” my 3-yr-old said, crawling into my lap. “I don’t want the coyotes to get us.”
I was amused, since the coyotes were clearly far away, and we were clearly 30 feet off the ground on the upper deck. Before I could console, Nathaniel (then 6) said, “It’s ok, Christine”
His tone was so comforting. I smiled at the irony that he was probably the one who had introduced her fear, but I was thrilled that this time he was being so kind.
Then he continued in the same joyful tone: “You believe in Jesus, so you will go to heaven when the coyotes are done eating you.”
The talk of Jesus in our house is evident in the language of my children. But a few months ago, our pastor here in North Carolina,