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How we use Words
By Bill Lewis
Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit – you choose. (Proverbs 18:21 ) For something that we do so often, it is quit amazing how good we can be at times and how bad we can be at times. We naturally lean to the negative side of using words and that is why it is so important to be working at the skill of words. Yes, to a certain extent it is skill, but it goes much deeper than just a skill and hopefully I can shed a little light on such a complicated subject.
Author Paul David Tripp says in War of Words,” Adam and Eve‘s ability to communicate in words made them unique in all of creation. They could take their thoughts, desires, and emotions and share them with each other. They were like God; they could talk! By giving them this ability, God was setting the shape of their lives.”
God has given us such a great gift and yet most of the time, our words are more hurtful or self-fulfilling than they are helpful. Why is that? Have you ever made some of these statements and wondered why?
You make me so angry!
If you hadn’t ______ then I wouldn’t have _______
Whenever you do that I just can’t control myself ( blame )
I wasnt like this before I had children ( regret )
If it’s the last thing I do I’ll get you to respect me ( threat )
After everything we have done for you …. ( guilt )
Remember that thing you wanted? If you do …. I’ll think about it ( manipulation )
Our communication struggles are not primarily a struggle of technique but a struggle of the heart. Our war of words is not with other people; it is a battle within. Have you ever been around someone who reads books and listens to personnel growth cd’s but there still seems to be something harsh about them? It is because they have learned techniques and can say the r
GREAT LEADERS - GONE - NOT FORGOTTEN - GUTENBERG
By George Guzzardo
If you would have invented a technology that transformed the world from a place of darkness to the most intellectually and artistically enlightened period of history, your name surely would be familiar to the common man. Yet, just ask anyone what they know about Gutenberg and they might reply, "It's a good German beer." If the use of the internet by just about everyone has made the world flat, as they say, just imagine the impact the printing press had in expanding literacy throughout the world . The invention of the Gutenberg printing press may be classified as the greatest invention to mankind. This technology connected literacy with the masses which caused a wide spread of knowledge and advanced modern science and literature faster than ever before. This one invention essentially took the middle ages into the Renaissance and Reformation period.
Johannes Gutenberg 1400 - 1468 loved to read. His frustration and identification of a problem involving book making lead to the invention of the printing press. Prior to this, few could afford the cost of owning books in the middle ages. Libraries were limited to monasteries and churches. Prior to the invention of moveable type for letter press, printing occurred from wooden blocks. The Romans used this technique in textiles and the Mongol Empire used it to run paper currency. Letter press had many advantages in that it could be used repeatedly until worn out. It was cast in metal from a mould so it could be removed without difficulty. Historian Paul Johnson calls it "A triumph of German craftsmanship at it's best". Presses sprang up all over the world. Nuremberg established itself as the center of international publishing trade. Printing aimed at mass sales. The Gutenberg Bible (1455) was the first book ever published with moveable type. Today, the original Gutenberg Bible is considered one of the finest pieces of art left to mankind. In 1978, a two - volume edition sold for over two...
The Four Stages of Success
By Claude Hamilton
If you haven’t read Kenneth Blanchard’s One Minute Manager series, you should. Even though the first one was originally published twenty years ago, the books are still relevant today. In fact, I feel so strongly about Blanchard’s ideas that I’ve incorporated his four stages of development into my own business philosophy. Here’s a quick explanation of the four stages you should get familiar with if you’re starting something new:
Orientation: This is the first phase of your new project or endeavor. Your energy is high and you’re feeling positive. This positivity causes an interesting side affect, though—an initial lack of direction. If you have an unrealistic expectation of how easy success will be, you can’t properly plan for the challenges you’re sure to face.
Dissatisfaction: This is where you figure out that success isn’t as easy as you though it would be. This stage is the natural reaction to trying hard and meeting little success. Your energy drops and direction is still low. This is also where most people give up.
Resolution: This is where you finally achieve some success. Your energy is still low, but you have stronger direction because you’ve gained the skills you need and you’re finally able to envision a future for your new business or project. Some people still give up here, because they have a better idea of what it will take to succeed and they don’t have the energy or resources to pull it off. But those who do make it through the Resolution stage are usually equipped with a good plan for success.
Production: Aim to stay in this phase for as long as you can. This is where you start to achieve your goals. Your energy is high and so is your direction. Success follows success, until you’ve achieved something consistent and reliable. This stage is hard work, but it’s also a lot of fun.
Now that you understand the four stages of success, I’ll tell you the key to getting
PRACTICE YOUR PEOPLE SKILLS…YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN YOU’LL NEED ’EM!
By Tim Marks
I was travelling up to Ontario, Canada, to deliver a speech to a large business group. My wife Amy and I decided to get a rental car in Detroit and drive the rest of the way. As we were crossing the border into Canada, the customs agent asked us the nature of our visit. I replied truthfully that we were going to a LIFE Leadership seminar, and as the conversation progressed, I explained that we were not just attending the event.…We were the keynote speakers.
This young lady did not like my answer; in fact, she seemed downright ornery. I can’t imagine being a customs agent is a ‘fun’ job, and perhaps she hadn’t yet listened to a lot of positive attitude CDs that day. But it really seemed she had woken up on the wrong side of the bed that day. She proceeded to ask me what made me qualified to be the speaker and why an American had to give the presentation and not a Canadian! The conversation went downhill from there. She soon demanded written proof that we had been invited to speak in Canada and threatened to send us packing if we didn’t produce some sort of formal invitation. This was a serious problem because I had a thousand people counting on me to arrive and inspire their business teams!
Now, the Tim Marks of the old days would have responded very harshly when backed against the wall like this. The old Tim would have wanted to put her in her place and show her who’s boss. The old Tim would have wanted to prove that she was wrong and I was right. And the old Tim would have won the battle, lost the war, and been sent packing back to Florida! Thank goodness the (somewhat) “new and improved” Tim was at the border that day because I got to practice all the people skills...
Tri-Lateral Leadership Ledger
By Orrin Woodward
I read recently of Sturgeon’s Law that states that 90% of anything is crud. Theodore Sturgeon developed his law in arguing against critics who didn’t like science fiction books. His answer defended the best of
the science fiction genre. Like anything in life, cream rises to the top and only a few are willing to do what it takes to climb the mountain. As I thought on Sturgeon’s Law, I realized that it tied in perfectly
with Chris Brady and my Tri-Lateral Leadership Ledger (TLL) from our #1 Wall Street Journal Best Seller, Launching a Leadership Revolution. The idea behind the TLL is that leaders must develop their skills in
Character, Task and Relationships in order to influence effectively.Sturgeon’s Law ties in with the TLL by revealing that only 10% of the people will excel with character, only 10% will excel in task and only
10% excel in relationships.
The TLL scores you on a scale from 1 to 10 in each of the three areas and then multiplies the scores together for a total leadership score. 1000 being the highest theoretical score that you can achieve – 10x10x10 and zero being the lowest score possible. Sturgeon’s Law reveals that only 10%x10%x10% will excel in all three areas necessary to effectively lead. This amounts to 1 out of 1000 that lead people with character, task and relationships. This number matches with what I have learned experimentally through building communities. You have a performer for every 100 to 150 people and you have a true leader for every 1000 people associating in your community. This is just another example of how rare true leadership is. When you find someone with Character, Task and Relationship, it is important to serve them and reward them. John Maxwell says, “Everything rises and falls on leadership” and I concur.
How are you doing in the three areas? The tendency is to overrate yourself when you think through the
TLL. If you are part of a networking community and hav